Safer sex positions
Always try to be in the top position with your client as this gives you control of the situation. You can also check that the condom is in place and has not slipped off or been removed. Such positions as ‘doggie’ allow the client to assault you from behind or slip the condom off and are not recommended. If doing ‘doggie’ with your clients, check the room for mirrors, windows or other reflective objects which allow you to see your clients in the reflection.
Being tied up or placed in restraints by your client can place you in a very vulnerable and dangerous position. At times, you may be asked to see two clients at once. It is not good practice to see more than one client at a time, especially if you work alone. If you are working in an establishment and a booking of this nature arises, ask the manager to check on you half way through your booking to make sure you are safe and that the clients are treating you with respect.
Take care with condoms
If you are in other sexual positions, please be sure to always check that the condom is in place. Place your hand at the front of your vagina so you can feel the condom. Always use your own condoms. If the client requests that you use the ones he has, explain to him that you have just purchased yours and besides it all comes with the service. You can never tell where the client has stored his condoms – they could have been sitting in a wallet or in the sunlight, which weakens the condom.
If the client is taking his time to cum, it’s best practice to change the condom and add more lubricant. Always apply the condom yourself - DO NOT let the client do this.
As a final thought, trust your own instincts and judgment. They are your best guide for safe sex practices between you and your clients.
IF IT DOESN’T FEEL RIGHT, DON’T DO IT! STAY SAFE AND PRACTISE SAFE SEX
Many thanks for this article to SQWISI, a community-based organisation that supported sex workers in Queensland, Australia, but is unfortunately is no longer running.
All about orgasms
Orgasm is characterised by intense physical pleasure and quick cycles of muscle contraction in the lower pelvic muscles around the primary sexual organs and anus.
Orgasms are often associated with other involuntary actions, including vocalizations and muscular spasms in other areas of the body. Male and female brains act almost the same during orgasm. Brain scans show that large parts of the cerebral cortex temporarily reduce their activity, which may explain why it is called ‘the little death’ in France, and ‘death amidst the act’ in Spain.
Around 13% of women experience multiple orgasms, and some men have reported having multiple consecutive orgasms, particularly without ejaculation. Orgasm doesn’t always require stimulation of the penis or clitoris. Apart from the obvious “wet dreams”, some people with spinal cord injuries have been able to reach orgasm by mental stimulation alone.
A small number of people can reach orgasm by very indirect stimulation, such as riding a bicycle, exercising, or even yawning. Others report reaching orgasm by stimulation of the prostate gland (ie. anal sex for men, or the ‘g-spot for women).
Some women claim to have reached orgasm by having their breasts stimulated. Female ejaculation occurs for a small percentage of women – it is theorised that the liquid comes from the Skenes glands (the female equivalent of the prostrate) and exits via the urethra.
Sigmund Freud theorised that clitoral orgasms were a sign of sexual immaturity and that adult women should have vaginal orgasms, a claim that, like much of his work, has been disproved over time.
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